It has been so, so long since I’ve written. Life got busy, I suppose, but I don’t think I’ve ever gone so long without posting. I even missed posting on L’s ninth birthday. She’s about to be ten now. Maybe I haven’t been writing because I still haven’t seen her. But that’s for another post […]
My sweetest, smartest, most beautiful L: This week was your birthday. You’re eight this year, and the birthday is bittersweet. Your birthday makes me keenly aware that the last time I saw you in person, you had just turned six. The pandemic hit a few months after I saw you last, and though I think […]
If you missed my last post, I agreed to do an interview series on being a birthmother! The interview will be published in parts. Check out Part Two of my conversation with journalist Shea Keating here: https://vocal.media/families/interview-with-a-birth-mother-e04o8m0g7n Please let me know what you think!
Life is so weird. I agreed to do an interview series on being a birthmother! The interview will be published in parts. Check out Part One of my conversation with journalist Shea Keating here: https://vocal.media/families/interview-with-a-birth-mother Please let me know what you think!
This past Sunday/Monday was Mother’s Day and Birth Mother’s Day, and both passed unremarkably. I’ve written about my conflicted feelings about Mother’s Day before (see this post if you’re curious), but suffice to say that it’s just a day I’m aware of, every moment, all day. In a time where it’s been over a year […]
I miss my daughter. I’ll just be honest. There’s nothing anyone can or should do about it; it is what it is. I miss her like crazy. The COVID pandemic has hit the adoption community pretty hard, if I’m being honest. Those of us with open or semi-open adoptions, who typically get to see our […]
Some people argue that adopted persons should be free to initiate relationships with their biological families — or not — on their own timetable. The parents (bio and adoptive) in an adoption shouldn’t make such an important and personal decision for them by engaging in fully open adoption. What is your response? Do you agree […]
The world is so different now from how it was even a few months ago. Everything about the way we live and interact and travel and work has changed. I’ve been handling quarantine pretty well, honestly — I think introverts were generally more equipped to handle all this time alone, this time of occupying yourself, […]
I saw my baby in the fall of last year, and I did something I haven’t done since L was six months old: I brought my sister. I’ve talked before about how possessive I can get of L, and how weird it feels to include anyone who isn’t myself or her parents in her story. […]
It’s been a million years since I last posted. Apologies. Things are going wonderfully, but last summer and fall carried strong winds of change, so I had a lot of adjusting to do (good adjustments!) before I could settle back into my groove and get back to writing. So I’m back. The last thing I […]
A Flower That Lives On A Star 